How to stay calm and confident in uncertainty
If I had to use one emoji to describe the theme of my January, it would be the “I don’t know” emoji. 🤷🏻♀️
There were a lot of unexpected changes that came with the start of the year, which brought along with it a plethora of unknowns that have required an immense amount of patience from me.
And if you know anything about me, I am not always the most patient person.
And I certainly do not like NOT being in control.
Over the past few weeks, as I’ve (somewhat) patiently waited for the process to unfold I’ve oscillated between two parts of myself.
The human part of me that wants to figure out all the details like the how, the where, and the when- even though, as we discussed last week, I am well aware that those details are not our job (if you missed that you can go back and read it here).
And the soul part of me that knows everything is happening for me to bring me more of what I want and closer to my goals. And that the best way to get there faster is to stay connected to that relationship to the divine that allows me (and all of us) to move beyond our normal conceptions of what is possible.
During my human moments, I experienced plenty of anxious, sleepless nights with my brain over-functioning and creating a lot of physical congestion in my head as well as a pervasive feeling of being caged-in and limited.
During my soul moments, I experienced multiple work opportunities manifesting out of nowhere, an unexpected upgrade from main cabin to first class, a sense of inner peace and a buoyant feeling of freedom and possibility.
It was moments like those that reminded me that the patterns and forms we believe to be immutable can actually be changed in a moments notice.
It all depends on our mindset and point of view (which is one reason I love travel so much, it automatically gives me a different viewpoint).
When we get in our routines or the patterns of how we live our lives, we can often shrink ourselves and our desires to fit into the boxes we’ve created.
That’s not to say that’s always bad.
Our boxes give us boundaries.
A sense of security and safety.
A solid foundation to plant our roots so we can grow.
But sometimes, our boxes become too small for us to expand any further.
In order to continue growing we need to increase the size of our container.
And that takes courage.
It takes trust.
It takes tenacity.
It takes confidence.
Here are 5 practices I used over the past few weeks to help stay calm in the face of uncertainty and have confidence that my success is inevitable.
Tapping Bladder Points: Use fingers to gently tap on the inner eyebrows while repeating to yourself, “As an adult, I can release my fear of letting go of control and know that I can make choices that will take care of myself and keep me feeling free, no matter what the situation.”
Tapping Triple Warmer Points: Use fingers to gentle tap on temples while repeating to yourself, “I can let go of control and relax, trusting that the Universe knows what I want.”
Holding Gallbladder Points: Cross your arms so that you can hold on to the opposite shoulder where the next and shoulder meet. Close your eyes and repeat to yourself, “What I want is wanting me”.
Embrace dissonance: When feeling resistance or moments of frustration about something you don’t like or that isn’t the way you want, pause in those moments to acknowledge that it isn’t what you want and ask your heart, “ok, so what DO I want.”
Listen: Get quiet and listen to the answer that comes from your heart. It may be words, a feeling, an idea, or a sensation.
And don’t forget to breathe. :-) You’ve got this.
