Are you not where you want to be in life?
Last night I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a post from someone who’s been MIA for quite some time.
She commented about how she’s currently doing and referenced experiencing a deep amount of grief over the last few months regarding some doors that have forever closed and possibilities that are no longer.
Her post resonated with me in relation to the current energy we find ourselves in this mid-September.
I just finished the book, The 12 Week Year by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington, which I highly recommend for anyone whether you own your own business or you’re the CEO of your own life.
It points to the science that shows businesses often make their greatest profit in the last 12 weeks of the year and employees make the most traction on their goals (both professionally and personally) simply because they plan annually and suddenly, come the last 12 weeks of the year, that annual deadline is looming close enough that it spurs people into committed action.
It also points out the other side of that coin, which is that by planning annually and having such a distant deadline, many of us don’t accomplish anywhere near what we are capable of each year.
That’s the point that resonated with the Instagram post I saw.
In truth, most of us aren’t where we want to be in some area of our lives.
Maybe we thought we’d be out of debt, married, a parent, pursuing our passion or living in a completely different location.
The grief of that awareness can feel heartbreaking.
And at the same time it is important to acknowledge.
Honoring the grief is useful, but berating yourself for not being where you thought you’d be is not.
I guarantee you it has nothing to do with you having a lack of desire, being lazy or unmotivated.
There are several factors that can keep us from getting to where we want to be.
Fear or limiting beliefs (“I can’t do this”, “I don’t deserve to have this”, etc.)
Not having clarity on your vision, so not knowing exactly where you want to go or having a focused direction
Not having a strategic and logistical system for how to get from where you are to where you want to be
Change and growth are hard.
And trying to go it alone or reinvent the wheel can make it take longer and feel, well, lonely.
But have faith my friend, the most encouraging news about each of these 3 factors is that they are all changeable.
They are thoughts that can be reprogrammed and skill sets that can taught, practiced and mastered.
And that’s exactly what I teach my clients to do.
As you’re honoring the ways you might not be where you thought you’d be, also take a look at the ways your life might have taken a different, yet beautiful and amazing path that you are grateful for, but never imagined.
That’s the bittersweet thing about life, there is always joy in the grief and grief in the joy.
So embrace them both.
I often find, when Mercury goes Retrograde, which it did last Friday, that’s the time I most desire to push everything in my life forward and it’s also the time I’ll experience the most resistance, barriers or complications in making forward progress.
Here are four tapping practices to help you feel more self love, during Mercury Retrograde or whenever you might need it.
Processing Grief: Tap your Lung Points which are on your upper chest, straight in from the armpits and directly above the chest on either side of your torso.
2nd Chakra Clearing: Hold one hand palm down on your forehead to help calm your nervous system. Take your other hand right below your navel. Begin tapping the hand below the navel, either with your fingertips or the flattened palm of the hand. As you tap, repeat 3 times to yourself, “I am complete within myself”. After the third time, stop tapping and let your hand rest below your navel and you take 3 breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Increasing Faith In The Process: Tap your Spleen Points which are on the base of your rib cage below the chest. Take your hands about one inch wider out towards the sides of your rib cage and tap there.
Encouraging Hope: Tap your Bladder Points which are on the inner corners of each eyebrow.
I would love to hear how these go! Leave a comment in the blog below.
